Saturday, 29 September 2012

Misc. Music: Luxury by Azealia Banks

In which I post another Azealia Banks music video. 
She does seem to be popping them out rather quickly these days no? 
As usual I love. Do enjoy.

In Which I Had an Arm Cut Off (Metaphorically)

You might have noticed, but I haven't been around lately....

I've been ill, but more significantly, I've been suffering through my own personal version of hell, wherein I have had no access to the internet (or any kind of web enabled device) for days at a time. I feel like a brat for even complaining about it, (is there a bigger first world problem in existence?) but in this day and age, not being online for extended periods of time is almost like being forced to clap after you've had an arm cut off. Especially if you're young and broke like me, and trying to find a job....

In any case, I can't yet say when next I'll be online, or when I'll be posting regularly again, but I thought it was prudent to reassure the silent (and possibly non-existent) masses that I am not yet dead. Hopefully I'll have this problem sorted soon, but no promises. In the mean time, please enjoy this lovely little tune that Rihanna apparently released while I was in a technology induced seclusion. I quite like it. Thoughts?

Friday, 14 September 2012

Politics: ISide 83% with Barack Obama

Do with this what you will. 

I don't get a vote anyway, so it's irrelevant where I stand, but if you are an American, you should definitely head over to iSidewith, take the quiz, and get a little more informed about where all the candidates stand on particular issues, and to clarify to yourself where you stand. the website, is obviously not a catch-all, and the best it can do is tell you which candidate most closely holds the same political views as you, but it's a start. 

iSideWith can't tell you who to vote for, but it can help you make a more informed decision. When you're done taking the quiz, head back over and let me know which candidate you side with, and which issues mattered most to you.

Happy politicking!

Feminism: Not Your Mama's Sex Ed

Comprehensive sex-ed. Get on it.

Tuesday, 11 September 2012

Fashion: Carnival of Colour S/S'13 by Anya Ayoung Chee

Cool Caribbean Confidence (Carnival of Colour)

I've been meaning to get back to my Soundtrack Saturday polyvore posts for absolutely ages now, (seriously, it's been months...) so when I saw that tech giant HP, and local darling, designer, and winner of Project Runway Season 9, Anya Ayoung Chee were collaborating with Polyvore in a contest to celebrate the debut of her Spring/Summer 2013 collection Carnival of Colour, I thought that now was as good a time as any to get back on the horse.

For what it's worth, I'm loving Anya's new collection. True to her aesthetic, it's full of breezy relaxed pieces infused with strikingly bold prints. You can't have a Carnival of colour without the COLOUR can you! My personal favourite piece is the gorgeous floor length dress in the bottom left corner. The cut is fabulous and flattering and the print is stunning. My only complaint? There is no way I could wear that dress with my massive boobs and not offend someone! The busty gals love your designs too Anya! Don't forget us!

Overall, the collection is very reminiscent of her winning Project Runway collection. The feel and flavour is the same, but with updated silhouettes, commanding prints and a brighter colour palette. The vibe is what is new. While her PR collection brought to mind images of lounging ladies who lunch, this new collection has a more relaxed feel to it. These are the clothes that the young and stylish wear during their regular lives; drinks with friends, brunch, and fetes on the Avenue. It's a brilliant fusion of her Trinidadian heritage and her New York fashion experience.

I had a lot of fun creating this set. I tried to look for pieces that not only complemented the clothing, but were also things that I thought Anya might wear herself. One of the things I admire about Anya's personal style is that she is very liberal with her visual references. Her inspirations are at once diverse and laser precise. It's a fine line to walk, and it can easily jump head first into gaudy, but Anya handles it with polish and grace.

Hop on over to Anya's Polyvore profile to catch a first look at the shots from the full collection before the official lookbook is released, and follow her on twitter for up-to-the-minute updates on her NYFW progress. Feel free to pin my set to polyvore, and also to create and enter your own!

What do you think of Anya's newest offering? Which pieces are you coveting and will you be purchasing any of them? Which other designer's collections are you anticipating this season? Let me know in the comments section!

Monday, 10 September 2012

That's so PINteresting! [UPDATED]

You may (or may not, NBD, I don't judge) have noticed that I have added a pinterest logo to my footer.
Never fear, thine eyes have not deceived you, I have in fact joined pinterest. I actually joined a while ago, but refused to use it. I don't think it adds anything to my online experience so far, but I'm still a newbie so we'll see as we go along. In any case, feel free to follow my boards and add me as a friend. Then I won't look so lame! but seriously, can we collectively agree to ignore any other social networks that turn up?

UPDATE: I've also added a fun pinterest widget (courtesy of and many thanks to Marie of Code it Pretty) to my footer that allows you to hover through my latest pins. I think it's pretty awesome. If you'd like to add it to your own blogger blog, here's the tutorial.

Thursday, 6 September 2012

MTV VMA's 2012 Liveblog!

It's the VMA's tonight! For some strange reason I thought today was Wednesday and that the VMA's were next week, so this post is  a little slap-dash, but in any case, I'll be live-blogging the show tonight via my twitter account @promiscuouslola from 8-10pm! Join me, join in, and let's get to bitching about celebrities!

Feminism: A Call to Arms for Decent Men by Ernest W, Adams

There are a lot of things that get me fired up and angry. The recent onslaught of sexism, violence and hatred directed at Anita Sarkeesian because of her desire to examine sexist tropes in video games is one of them. But I'm not a gamer. My favourite video game is The Sims. I have no expertise in this area, and so I kept silent for fear I would do more damage than good by not having all the facts. 

But silent no more. Writer Ernest W. Adams, has put together a succinct analysis of why sexism in gaming is something that needs to be combated, and why men are the ones that need to do the fixing. As Audre Lorde said, "It is not the responsibility of the oppressed to educate the oppressors about their mistakes." Read on, and get educated.

Guys, we have a problem. We are letting way too many boys get into adulthood without actually becoming men. We’re seeing more and more adult males around who are not men. They’re as old as men, but they have the mentality of nine-year-old boys. They’re causing a lot of trouble, both in general and for the game industry specifically. We need to deal with this.

Why us? Because it’s our job to see to it that a boy becomes a man, and we are failing.

When we were little boys we all went through a stage when we said we hated girls. Girls had “cooties.” They were silly and frilly and everything that a boy isn’t supposed to be. We got into this stage at about age seven, and we left it again at maybe 10 or 11.

Then puberty hit and, if we were straight, we actively wanted the company of girls. We wanted to “go with” them, date them, and eventually we wanted to fall in love and live with one, maybe for the rest of our lives. That’s the way heterosexual boys are supposed to mature, unless they become monks.

My point is, you’re supposed to leave that phase of hating girls behind. Straight or gay, you’re supposed to grow the hell up.

What might be temporarily tolerable in a boy when he’s nine is pretty damned ugly when he’s fifteen and it’s downright psychopathic when he’s twenty. Instead of maturing into a man’s role and a man’s responsibilities, a lot of boys are stuck at the phase of hating girls and women. The boys continue to treat them like diseased subhumans right through adolescence and into adulthood.

Men have more power than women: financially, politically, and physically. What distinguishes a real man from a boy is that a man takes responsibility for his actions and does not abuse this power. If you don’t treat women with courtesy and respect – if you’re still stuck in that “I hate girls” phase – then no matter what age you are, you are a boy and not entitled to the privileges of adulthood.
  • If you want to have some private little club for males only – like keeping women out of your favorite shooter games – you’re not a man, you’re an insecure little boy. A grown-up man has no problem being in the company of women. He knows he’s a man.
  • If you freak out when a girl or a woman beats you in a game, you’re not a man, you’re a nine-year-old boy. A man doesn’t need to beat a woman to know he’s a man. A man is strong enough to take defeat in a fair game from anybody and move on.
  • If your masculinity depends on some imaginary superiority over women, then you don’t actually have any. Manliness comes from within, and not at the expense of others.
  • And if you threaten or abuse women, verbally or physically, you are not a man. You’re a particularly nasty specimen of boy.
When this puerile mentality is combined with the physical strength and sexual aggressiveness of an older boy or an adult male, it goes beyond bad manners. It’s threatening and anti-social, and if those boys are permitted to congregate together and support each other, it becomes actively dangerous. Yes, even online.

Of course, I don’t mean all boys are like this. Most of them get out of the cootie phase quickly and grow up just fine. But far too many don’t. If we don’t do something about these permanent nine-year-olds pretty soon, they’re going to start having boys of their own who will be just as bad if not worse, and life will not be worth living. Life is already not worth living on Xbox Live Chat.

In addition to the harm they do to women – our mothers, our sisters, our daughters – these full-grown juveniles harm ustoo. A boy who refuses to grow up has lousy social skills, a short attention span, and a poor attitude to work. Furthermore, all men – that’s you and me, bro – get the blame for theirbad behavior. And we deserve it, because we’ve been sitting on our butts for too long. We let them be bullies online and get away with it.

Some of you might think it’s sexist that I’m dumping this problem on us men. It isn’t; it’s just pragmatic.Women can not solve this problem. A boy who hates girls and women simply isn’t going to pay attention to a woman’s opinion. The only people who can ensure that boys are taught, or if necessary forced, to grow up into men are other men.

Let’s be clear about something else. This is not a political issue. This is not a subject for debate, any more than whether your son is allowed to swear at his mother or molest his sister is a subject for debate. There is no “other point of view.” The real-world analogy is not to social issues but to violent crime. Muggers don’t get to have a point of view.

So how do we change things?

First, we need to serve as positive examples. With the very little boys, we need to guide them gently but firmly out of the cootie phase. To the impressionable teenagers, we must demonstrate how a man behaves and how he doesn’t. Be the change you want to see. Use your real name and your real picture online, to show that you are a man who stands behind his words. Of course, you can’t prove your name is real, but it doesn’t matter. If you consistently behave with integrity online, the message will get across.

Secondly, we men need to stand up for courtesy and decency online. We can’t just treat this as a problem for women (or blacks, or gays, or anybody else the juvenile bullies have in their sights). Tell them and their friends that their behavior is not acceptable, that real men don’t agree with them, that they are in the minority. Say these words into your headset: “I’m disappointed in you. I thought you were a man, not a whiny, insecure little boy.” Don’t argue or engage with them. Never answer their questions or remarks, just repeat your disgust and disapproval. Assume the absolute moral superiority to which you are entitled over a bully or a criminal.

Finally, we need to put a stop to this behavior. It’s time for us to force the permanent nine-year-olds to grow up or get out of our games and forums. It’s not enough just to mute them. We need to build the infrastructure that precludes this kind of behavior entirely – Club Penguin has already done it for children – or failing that, we have to make the bullies pay a price for their behavior.Appealing to their better nature won’t work; bullies have none. We do not request, we do not debate,we demand and we punish.

I have some specific suggestions, from the least to the most extreme.
  1. Mockery. In 1993 50 Ku Klux Klansmen marched through Austin, Texas. Five thousand anti-Klan protestors turned up to jeer at them. Best of all, several hundred lined the parade route and mooned the Klan in waves. The media ate it up, and the Klan looked ridiculous. The hurt that they wanted to cause was met not with anger but with derision. The juvenile delinquents are just like the Klan in 1993: anonymous in their high-tech bedsheets, and threatening, but in fact, a minority. Let’s use our superior numbers and metaphorically moon the boys who can’t behave. They’re social inadequates, immature losers. Let’s tell them so, loud and clear, in front of their friends. 
  2. Shut them up. The right to speak in a public forum should be limited to those who don’t abuse it. James Portnow suggested this one in his Extra Credits video on harassment. Anyone who persistently abuses others gets automatically muted to all players. The only players who can hear them are those who choose to unmute them. Or another of James’ suggestions: New users don’t even get the right to talk. They have to earn it, and they keep it only so long as they behave themselves. This means a player can’t just create a new account to start spewing filth again if they’ve been auto-muted. Build these features into your games.
  3. Take away their means. If you’re the father of a boy who behaves like this online, make it abundantly clear to him that it is unmanly and unacceptable, then deny him the opportunity to do it further. We don’t let nine-year-olds misuse tools to hurt other people. Take away his cell phone, his console and his computer. He can learn to behave like a man, or he can turn in his homework in longhand like a child. 
  4. Anonymity is a privilege, not a right. Anonymity is a double-edged sword. A limited number of people need it in certain circumstances: children, crime victims, whistleblowers, people discussing their medical conditions, political dissidents in repressive regimes. But those people normally don’t misuse their anonymity to abuse others; they’re protecting themselvesfrom abuse. I think the default setting in all online forums that are not intended for people at risk should require real names. After a user has demonstrated that they are a grown-up, thenoffer them the privilege of using a pseudonym. And take it away forever if they misuse it. I haven’t used a nickname for years except in one place where all the readers know who I am anyway. Has it made me more careful about what I say? You bet. Is that a good thing? Damn right it is. 
  5. Impose punishments that are genuinely painful. This suggestion is extreme, but I feel it’s both viable and effective. To play subscription-based or pay-as-you-go (“free-to-play-but-not-really”) games, most players need to register a credit card with the game’s provider. Include a condition in the terms of service that entitles the provider to levy extra charges for bad behavior. Charge $5 for the first infraction and double it for each subsequent one. This isn’t all that unusual; if you smoke in a non-smoking hotel room, you are typically subject to a whopping extra charge for being a jerk.
Now I’m going to address some objections from the very juvenile delinquents I’ve been talking about – if any of them have read this far.
  • What’s the big deal? It’s harmless banter. If you can’t stand the heat, get out of the game.” To start with, it’s our game, not yours, and we get to decide what’s acceptable behavior. You meet our standards or you get out. Apart from that, nothing that is done with intent to cause hurt is harmless. The online abuse I have seen goes way beyond banter. Threats are not harmless, they are criminal acts.
  • But this is part of gamer culture! It’s always been like this!” No, it is not. I’ve been gaming for over 40 years, and it has not always been like this. Yours is a nasty little subculture that arrived with anonymous online gaming, and we’re going to wipe it out.
  • This is just political correctness.” Invoking “political correctness” is nothing but code for “I wanna be an asshole and get away with it.” I’ll give you a politically-incorrect response, if you like: fuck that. It’s time to man up. You don’t get to be an asshole and get away with it.
  • You’re just being a White Knight and trying to suck up to women.” I don’t need to suck up to women, thanks; unlike you, I don’t have a problem with them, because I’m a grown man.
  • Women are always getting special privileges.” Freedom from bullying is a right, not a privilege, and anyway, that’s bullshit. Males are the dominant sex in almost every single activity on the planet. The only areas that we do not rule are dirty, underpaid jobs like nursing and teaching. Do you want to swap? I didn’t think so.
  • It’s hypocrisy. How come they get women-only clubs and we don’t get men-only clubs?” Because they’re set up for different reasons, that’s why. Male-only spaces are about excluding women from power, and making little boys whose balls evidently haven’t dropped feel special. Female-only spaces are about creating a place where they are safe from vermin.
  • But there’s misandry too!” Oh, and that entitles you to be a running sore on the ass of the game community? Two wrongs don’t make a right.. I’ll worry about misandry when large numbers of male players are being hounded out of games with abuse and threats of violence. If a few women are bigoted against men, you only have to look in the mirror to find out why.
  • Free speech!” The oldest and worst excuse for being a jerk there is. First, you have no right to free speech in privately-owned spaces. Zero. Our house, our rules. Second, with freedom comes the responsibility not to abuse it. People who won’t use their freedoms responsibly get them taken away. And if you don’t clean up your act, that will be you.
OK, back to the real men for a few final words.

This is not about “protecting women.” It’s about cleaning out the sewers that our games have become. This will not be easy and it will not be fun. Standing up to these little jerks will require the same courage from us that women like Anita Sarkeesian have already shown. We will become objects of hatred, ridicule, and contempt. Our manhood will be questioned. But if we remember who we are and stand strong together, we can beat them. In any case we won’t be threatened with sexual violence the way women are. We have it easier than they do.

It’s time to stand up. If you’re a writer, blogger, or forum moderator, please write your own piece spreading the message, or at least link to this one. I also encourage you to visit Gamers Against Bigotry, sign the pledge, are share it. Use your heavy man’s hand in the online spaces where you go – and especially the ones you control – to demand courtesy and punish abuse. Don’t just mute them. Report them, block them, ban them, use every weapon you have. (They may try to report us in return. That won’t work. If you always behave with integrity, it will be clear who’s in the right.)

Let’s stand shoulder-to-shoulder with the women we love, and work with, and game with, and say, “We’re with you. And we’re going to win.”

Republished with permission.

Tuesday, 4 September 2012

Fashion Find: You Ned a Fashion Shower

Anyone who is not Anna Dello Russo obviously needs a Fashion Shower.
Read more about ADR's fashion shower and her H&M collaboration over at REfinery 29!

Photo of the Day: Lemon Scented

Tamara by Javier Lovera

I'm a sucker for bright colours. Between that electric manicure and those amazing ombre lips, this beauty shot is all kinds of perfection. I especially love the lips. I've been trying to achieve something similar on my own for weeks, but as I have nowhere to go, the sense of urgency to succeed isn't really there...

Monday, 3 September 2012

Misc. Music: 1991 by Azealia Banks

Ugh, you're probably so sick of hearing me talk about how amazing Azealia Banks is, but she IS amazing and so I have to talk about her all the time, always. 

Banks is on a roll these days, and this latest video installment is just another reason to get on her bus. The visuals as usual, are stunning. Banks has been slowly but surely creeping into the fashion world, but it's pretty clear that her image is refined. She knows what her look is, and she stays consistent. I love that. You'd be hard pressed to find a look in this video that wouldn't also fit into her Van Vogue video. She's rough but still refined. It's a difficult line to straddle. And she's pulling it off spectacularly, and sporting her new MAC Yung Rapunxel lipstick to boot.

via Karl is my Unkle

In any case, do enjoy. What do you think of this video? Do you like Azealia Banks' look and/or her music? What if anything do you think she should be doing differently?